3 Questions to Help You Start Dreaming Again

f you’re anything like me, and I’m betting you are, life has dealt you a few disappointments. 

Some disappointments are easier to get over: Someone took the last bowl of cereal. Your favorite restaurant is closed on Sundays and you’re starving. The dentist was out of red freebie toothbrushes at your cleaning.

Others aren’t as easy to get over. The worst are devastating: Losing your business during the recession. A broken relationship that simply won’t mend. A chronic illness. 

For me, disappointment stopped my dreaming. Why bother? Even if I got to have my dream, I’d end up losing it anyway. … More 3 Questions to Help You Start Dreaming Again

How To Transform Plaguing Insecurities Into Life-Giving Affirmations

Confession time. Sometimes I wake up more mortified about this new business than stoked. All I want is to throw the covers back over my head, snuggle down into the soft womb of my bed, and forget I had this brilliant idea in the first place. I mean, who am I to think I can pull something like this off? I’m just . . . me. Me with all my flaws, all my weaknesses, all my insecurities—insecurities which take this prime opportunity to rattle off why I suck. 

Sound familiar? … More How To Transform Plaguing Insecurities Into Life-Giving Affirmations

Life Derailed? How to Renew Your Purpose

What’s my purpose? What was I born to do? What lights me up on the inside?

Ask me five years ago, and I would’ve spouted off assured answers to these burning questions.

But now? Not so much.

Just about four years ago, life threw my family and me a devastating curveball. We were just about recovered when, seven months later, the curveball twisted and gave us a one-two punch to the face and broke our hearts. And as we crawled and clawed and mourned our way out of the trauma, we came out stronger as a family unit, wise in ways we never wanted to be, and found a deep and profound healing in our souls.

As light dawned and we sighed a breath of relief in our new normal, until . . . … More Life Derailed? How to Renew Your Purpose

How to Reconnect Your Mind and Body

Raise your hand if you live more in your head than in your body.

In case you can’t see me, my hand is sticking so high in the air it makes that annoying teachers pet you secretly hated in high school look like a D student.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve viewed my body as a tool to achieve my goals.

That pain? Ignore it.

That fatigue? Push through.

That flu? Get back on my feet before I’m well.

I had no value for my body beyond it being a vessel through which I could interact with the world. … More How to Reconnect Your Mind and Body

Risk. Fail. Repeat.

Fast forward to your 80th birthday. You have all your favorite old bitys sitting in rocking chairs, anchored to the front porch. Your wrinkled significant other shuffles out barely gripping the birthday cake with enough candles to set the Hindenberg on fire. You’re worried your false teeth are going to fly out the second you try to blow them out. Got it pictured?

Good.

In that moment, right before you blow out the candles are you thinking, “Make a wish? No need. I have zero regrets.” Or are you thinking, “I’m wishing for the same dream to come true again?!” … More Risk. Fail. Repeat.

How Success Can Create Unrealistic Expectations

For those of you who haven’t figured it out already, I’m a goal-driven, Type-A personality, ready to conquer the world one checklist item at a time. This quality is perfect for accomplishing tasks and staying disciplined, but its horrible for the boring, monotonous, daily mindset I need to get well.

In fact, as I’ve created room in my daily life to heal from stupid, chronic Lyme disease—resting, listening to what my body needs (and actually doing it), the whole days job of taking medication and eating clean—my relentlessly, goal-driven mindset has highlighted a shocking bad habit that even the Energizer Bunny couldn’t maintain.

Let me explain. … More How Success Can Create Unrealistic Expectations

How to Belong to Yourself

Over the years, I’ve learned the art of not deciding I don’t belong, of not seeing my self-worth in another’s eyes.

This process was a “fake it ’til you make it” sort of thing, choosing to believe the feelings of not-belonging and expecting judgement from others were simply conjurings of my imagination. I can’t count how many times I’ve fought with this thought: My friend looks angry, therefore I must have done something to piss her off. Then to make it worse, she must not want to be my friend anymore. Or how about this one? My significant other was short with me, therefore he must not truly love me.

But this way of thinking—reading into other people’s emotions, making the distorted thoughts about me, and making judgement calls on the relationship—is toxic, and honestly, selfish. … More How to Belong to Yourself