How to Reconnect Your Mind and Body

Raise your hand if you live more in your head than in your body.

In case you can’t see me, my hand is sticking so high in the air it makes that annoying teachers pet you secretly hated in high school look like a D student.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve viewed my body as a tool to achieve my goals.

That pain? Ignore it.

That fatigue? Push through.

That flu? Get back on my feet before I’m well.

I had no value for my body beyond it being a vessel through which I could interact with the world. … More How to Reconnect Your Mind and Body

How Success Can Create Unrealistic Expectations

For those of you who haven’t figured it out already, I’m a goal-driven, Type-A personality, ready to conquer the world one checklist item at a time. This quality is perfect for accomplishing tasks and staying disciplined, but its horrible for the boring, monotonous, daily mindset I need to get well.

In fact, as I’ve created room in my daily life to heal from stupid, chronic Lyme disease—resting, listening to what my body needs (and actually doing it), the whole days job of taking medication and eating clean—my relentlessly, goal-driven mindset has highlighted a shocking bad habit that even the Energizer Bunny couldn’t maintain.

Let me explain. … More How Success Can Create Unrealistic Expectations

How to Belong to Yourself

Over the years, I’ve learned the art of not deciding I don’t belong, of not seeing my self-worth in another’s eyes.

This process was a “fake it ’til you make it” sort of thing, choosing to believe the feelings of not-belonging and expecting judgement from others were simply conjurings of my imagination. I can’t count how many times I’ve fought with this thought: My friend looks angry, therefore I must have done something to piss her off. Then to make it worse, she must not want to be my friend anymore. Or how about this one? My significant other was short with me, therefore he must not truly love me.

But this way of thinking—reading into other people’s emotions, making the distorted thoughts about me, and making judgement calls on the relationship—is toxic, and honestly, selfish. … More How to Belong to Yourself

How to Change Disappointment Into Opportunity

What is your biggest disappointment in life right now? I bet something immediately popped to mind. Hold this without judgement as you read because we’re going to use it as we go. At this very moment, my biggest disappointment is exhaustion like I’ve never experienced before. This is saying a lot because I’ve been progressively … More How to Change Disappointment Into Opportunity

December (AKA Resolution-Planning Month): My Favorite Time of the Year

Yes. I am one of those people who get all hyped up about New Year’s Resolutions. I stand proudly in my goal-planning nerdiness. Before all of you New Year’s Grinches, who can’t stand the thought of uttering one resolution (losing weight, exercise consistently, eat right), roll your eyes and click off this post, give me a chance to argue my point. … More December (AKA Resolution-Planning Month): My Favorite Time of the Year

Excuse Me. You Diagnosed Me With What?

You know those moments? The ones that alter your perspective so totally that your life is irrevocably changed?

I had one of those a few weeks ago.

Let me set the stage.

If you kept up with my Acts of Bravery challenge—one brave act every day—then you know I’ve had some health issues. Health issues I believed to be related to celiac disease. I’d tried everything to keep it under control—diet, exercise, mentally beating myself up—short of going to the doctor. But after another flare up so severe I missed my kids’ robotics tournament (my son’s last before he graduated high school) lying in bed with screaming gut pain, I realized I needed an expert’s help. … More Excuse Me. You Diagnosed Me With What?