This weekend marks the anniversary of arguably the bravest step in my Acts of Bravery journey. What is it? you ask. It’s not glamorous or exciting, but it has changed my life. This time last year, I committed to figuring out my health issues. On this journey, the more I open up about my health, … More 3 Brave Steps to Take Your Health Back
I’m honored and humbled to announce I was nominated for the 2018 Sunshine Blogger Award! This nomination came at an ideal time. I’ve been considering expanding my blog into a full-blown website to empower people to take brave steps to live the life they’ve always dreamed of. A few weeks ago I took the plunge and started building ActsofBravery.com to help me realize this dream. Of course, fear, self-doubt, and nagging thoughts like “who do you think you are” crept in. Thank you, Padma! This nomination encouraged me at exactly the right time! … More The Sunshine Blogger Award!
Raise your hand if you live more in your head than in your body.
In case you can’t see me, my hand is sticking so high in the air it makes that annoying teachers pet you secretly hated in high school look like a D student.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve viewed my body as a tool to achieve my goals.
That pain? Ignore it.
That fatigue? Push through.
That flu? Get back on my feet before I’m well.
I had no value for my body beyond it being a vessel through which I could interact with the world. … More How to Reconnect Your Mind and Body
I’m somewhere between inception of the goal and interstellar master of my dreams. And I’ve mistaken this in between state as mundane, because, well . . . most of the time the process is boring. I’m in the dregs of the journey, the part where . . . … More The Monotonous Middle
For those of you who haven’t figured it out already, I’m a goal-driven, Type-A personality, ready to conquer the world one checklist item at a time. This quality is perfect for accomplishing tasks and staying disciplined, but its horrible for the boring, monotonous, daily mindset I need to get well.
In fact, as I’ve created room in my daily life to heal from stupid, chronic Lyme disease—resting, listening to what my body needs (and actually doing it), the whole days job of taking medication and eating clean—my relentlessly, goal-driven mindset has highlighted a shocking bad habit that even the Energizer Bunny couldn’t maintain.
Let me explain. … More How Success Can Create Unrealistic Expectations
Death has always been a taboo subject for me. I fear it. Like deathly afraid of it (pun intended). But as I’ve been sick, and as I face down this biopsy to check for uterine cancer, I’ve had a few nights tossing, turning, and looking down the barrel of my own mortality. … More How to Embrace Your Mortality
Over the years, I’ve learned the art of not deciding I don’t belong, of not seeing my self-worth in another’s eyes.
This process was a “fake it ’til you make it” sort of thing, choosing to believe the feelings of not-belonging and expecting judgement from others were simply conjurings of my imagination. I can’t count how many times I’ve fought with this thought: My friend looks angry, therefore I must have done something to piss her off. Then to make it worse, she must not want to be my friend anymore. Or how about this one? My significant other was short with me, therefore he must not truly love me.
But this way of thinking—reading into other people’s emotions, making the distorted thoughts about me, and making judgement calls on the relationship—is toxic, and honestly, selfish. … More How to Belong to Yourself
What is your biggest disappointment in life right now? I bet something immediately popped to mind. Hold this without judgement as you read because we’re going to use it as we go. At this very moment, my biggest disappointment is exhaustion like I’ve never experienced before. This is saying a lot because I’ve been progressively … More How to Change Disappointment Into Opportunity
You know those years that turn out nothing like you planned? Certainly not how you hoped.
That sums up my 2017.
Can I get a do-over?
I asked, and Father Time said “no”. The jerk. … More Acts of Bravery: A Year in Review
As a bright-eyed and fairy tale-dreamer bride, I wanted one thing—to give my kids a sense of permanency, a sense of belonging to a place, to a community. Better yet, I wanted them to grow up and get married and bring their children and their grandchildren to our family home.
Think Father of the Bride circa 1991.
But this is life and not a dream. Things rarely work out the way we plan. … More No Going Back